Have you ever seen MTV’s show Catfish? Every show features someone in love with a person they met online. Even though the love birds never met before, the messages they send to each are very serious. Some are even talking about marriage. During the show couples find out if the other person (they have been chatting with) really is the person who he or she says they were.

Unfortunately most of the people who requested show host Nev’s help, find out they were lied to. The rejection results in feelings of disappointment, shame and anger. All the emotions can be summed up in one conclusion. What hurts the most is the breach of trust.

Anyone of us can recall a personal rejection once  in his of her life. It’s not something anyone looks back on with pleasure, but it does have a function in life. Studies show that people who experience rejection are more willing to form new relationships. To form these new relationships, you have to be willing to let go of your fears of rejection and trust the other people not to reject you. The other person has the same task lying ahead of him: trusting you to handle his feelings with care as well.

Although people may feel left out, everyone has somebody to rely on. It could be the milk man who brings you milk every day of your mother calling you weekly to make sure you are ok. Every person has built up a relationship with someone at least once in his or her life. We need these relationships to feel safe, loved and secure. The key ingredient of any relationship is trust. Losing trust is easier than rebuilding trust. But although rebuilding takes more effort, it is worth it. Because without trust we are alone in this world and therefore nowhere.

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